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Joe Downing was a model Mormon. As a teenager he conducted the choir for his local church ward every Sunday. Years later he served a church mission in Puerto Rico, and the day before graduating from the church-affiliated Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah, he married a Mormon bride. Nevertheless, as a young man Downing faced a question that troubles thousands of other Mormons: "Can I be gay and still be faithful to the church?"

Affirmation: Gay and Lesbian Mormons, a 20-year-old international support group for gay Mormons and their families and friends, has helped many church members decide that the answer is yes. And the group hopes to show others how to merge their faith with their sexuality when it kicks off its leadership conference, "Love Makes a Family," April 30 in Salt Lake City. The group provides a fellowship that gay men, lesbians, and their families may have trouble finding at church.

While the Mormon church – formally, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints – affirms honesty, family life, and temperance, church doctrine takes a sharp turn toward "don't ask, don't tell" when it comes to sexual orientation. In 1995 church president Gordon B. Hinckley told members, "Our hearts reach out to those who struggle with feelings of affinity for the same gender. However, we cannot condone immoral practices on your part any more than we can condone immoral practices on the parts of others."

Hinckley's statement forms the basis of Mormon policy toward gays. Because Mormons insist on celibacy outside of heterosexual marriage, that means "chastity is forever" for gays. Therefore, being openly gay in the church is impossible if you want to have sex.

Church officials won't estimate how many of the church's 10 million members are gay, and Don Lefevre, church spokesman, insists that homosexuality "isn't really an issue" and is rarely mentioned at church headquarters in Salt Lake. But gay men and women permeate the church, especially in the mission field, where more than 50,000 missionaries – 75% of them young men-labor in 160 countries. Before serving, missionaries undergo language training at a church center and are told to remain celibate. Homosexuality is addressed head-on.

"Church leaders made it clear that any sexual activity between missionaries would result in public humiliation," recalled called Steve Ganzell, a 40-year-old neuropsychologist who served a church mission in Argentina as a young man. While he slept in the same bed as his mission companion, the stem warnings were "enough to keep me in line, although I did usually have to sleep in two pairs of gym shorts."

While many doubt that the church's policy toward gays will change in the near future, a few are hopeful. Downing, now a gray-haired associate professor of music composition at Syracuse University in upstate New York, is one of them.

"The church does itself a great disservice in denying the gay part of the body of Christ," Downing said. "I have had several church leaders in their 40s say that the policies will change in 40 years when the men their age are the presiding church authorities.... I hope that things will change sooner."

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