Perdendo minha alma gêmea para a igreja

10 de abril de 2019

Desgosto de mulher

by Lori McAllister

Submetido à Afirmação após a reversão de A Igreja de Jesus Cristo dos Santos dos Últimos Dias de suas mudanças de política de novembro de 2015 que proibiam filhos de pais LGBTQ de serem abençoados e batizados e caracterizavam membros da igreja que se casavam pelo mesmo sexo como apóstatas. Essas mudanças se tornaram conhecidas na comunidade LGBTQ Mórmon como a "política de exclusão", "política de exclusão" ou "PoX". No dia seguinte ao anúncio da reversão desta política, Nathan Kitchen, Presidente da Afirmação, convidou todos os que estivessem dispostos a compartilhar seus sentimentos autênticos e todas as suas histórias de pesar, raiva, alívio, tristeza, felicidade, confusão, o que quer que seja que esteja ao redor a rescisão desta política. “Como presidente da Afirmação, quero ter certeza de que a Afirmação não esconde você ou suas histórias à medida que avançamos”, escreveu Kitchen em seu convite. Se você tiver reações ou uma história para compartilhar sobre a reversão da política de exclusão, envie para [email protected]. Você também pode leia outras histórias e reações à reversão da política de exclusão.

I am so beyond hurt and mad. I am gay and was raised Mormon. I was happy and in love, possibly with my soulmate, but she decided she has to prove her love and obedience to God and live by the Law of Chastity (and all of the Mormon) rules. In a timespan of only two hours, she went from telling me not to worry and how happy she was and then following an interview with her bishop, she tells me she has to go back to church fully and completely.

Why would the Spirit be that strong, strong enough for her to believe that our relationship was wrong and she needs to be alone and celibate for the rest of her life? I just can’t wrap my head around it or accept that an all-loving God would make us gay then tell us that we have to remain alone our entire lives to prove our love and obedience to him.

I know we all have trials but this one seems unreasonable and just cruel. She was mad at God and didn’t pray for 4 years, while I did. I still prayed every day, and I still do. We were happy when she wasn’t praying, but the day she starts praying again and has an interview with her bishop she is taken from me. Why? It makes me feel that I was just a test or trial from Satan that she failed. Our being together seemed like fate. But how can we get opposing answers to our prayers about our relationship? It just doesn’t make sense. I am truly heartbroken on so many levels. I am not going to remain single and celibate and I can’t be with her.

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3 comentários

  1. Emily Carter em 11/04/2019 às 11:18 AM

    I have been in a similar situation recently. The woman I initially became friends with and later became my girlfriend, after 2 years of being together broke it off with me.

    She was my twin flame and our connection was unnervingly natural. For the whole 2 years she went to church every week and watched general conference. She did abstain from taking the sacrament and attending the temple too.

    I really couldn’t wrap my head around continued church attendance either. Our whole relationship was during the time when practicing gays were considered apostates.

    At 40 years old I was her first everything. She also never told her family or friends what the significance of our relationship was. And I’m the kind of person who believes it’s not my place to tell someone’s story for them.

    It was beautiful in a lot of ways, and in other ways harder than I realized. I have a lot of gratitude for the time we had together. I was reminded of the possibilities in life. I was crushed when she said she was holding me back and and that I deserved more, when at the time I wanted all of that with her.

    It sucked. I did a lot of ugly crying. I grieved. Eventually I forced myself to start dating again just to get out of my comfort zone. I met some interesting people who after a few dates ghosted me. I met one woman who was pretty crazy. And then, defeated I met my now girlfriend who is a million times a better fit for me and my life.

    I wouldn’t have met my current girlfriend without my prior one breaking it off with me. I still wonder how my ex is doing (we don’t talk anymore because she was still in love with me and torn between love and religion). I still hope that someday, maybe decades from now even, she’ll fully accept, love, and embrace who she is and spend some of her years with another love.

    I firmly believe that we are made for love and that “God” doesn’t make mistakes. Me being lesbian isn’t a mistake. It serves a greater purpose to embody love in all it’s forms. I am love, and I am designed to learn in relationships.

    I promise someday, you’ll be alright. For now, feel as you go and honor where you are. Darkness is often the space of faith and creation. You will eventually grow brighter from the experiences. Please know, you are not alone. You are loved unconditionally simply because you exist.

    And if you want a supportive tribe, there’s a great LBGTQ & allies healing group every 2nd Thursday night at 7:30 p.m. at Awaken Wellness in Ogden.

  2. Anônimo em 19/04/2019 às 10:42 AM

    Thanks so much for your story and your words!

  3. Courtney em 04/08/2020 às 8:10 AM

    Both of your stories mean so much to me in my current situation. I am going through the exact same thing And feel lost by it all. That’s how I came to find affirmation.

    My ex has decided to fully give herself back to God a little over a week ago, after about 7 months of turmoil over it. Even though I am not shocked by the outcome of our relationship, since I had plenty of warning, I’m still as crushed as ever. I came to find affirmation because I was looking for answers to her problem and for myself. I needed more of an understanding where she was coming from in all of this ( I am not religious and never grew up in a religious household, but I’m spiritual and believe there is a higher power in charge of all this) It’s unfortunate I found this site after her revelation to go back to church but I hope she ends up checking it out some day, finding out she doesn’t need to decide between her faith and sexuality.
    She is most wonderful person I have ever met and our connection was and is unlike anything I have ever had before. She is my first girl relationship and I’m her second. Her first relationship was toxic and most of it was long distance so she hadn’t had a great experience following through with her sexuality until we got together. We are in love, but something pulled her back to church. I wish I could heal her, I wish I could make her love herself fully and truly and make her understand God made her this way for a reason.
    I believe LGBTQ people were sent to this earth to teach the rest of us about love and acceptance.
    I would love to find a support group in my journey to help better understand but I don’t have Facebook.

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