Perguntas não respondidas e fé abalada
abril 16, 2019
by Glenda Crump
Submetido à Afirmação após a reversão de A Igreja de Jesus Cristo dos Santos dos Últimos Dias de suas mudanças de política de novembro de 2015 que proibiam filhos de pais LGBTQ de serem abençoados e batizados e caracterizavam membros da igreja que se casavam pelo mesmo sexo como apóstatas. Essas mudanças se tornaram conhecidas na comunidade LGBTQ Mórmon como a "política de exclusão", "política de exclusão" ou "PoX". No dia seguinte ao anúncio da reversão desta política, Nathan Kitchen, Presidente da Afirmação, convidou todos os que estivessem dispostos a compartilhar seus sentimentos autênticos e todas as suas histórias de pesar, raiva, alívio, tristeza, felicidade, confusão, o que quer que seja que esteja ao redor a rescisão desta política. “Como presidente da Afirmação, quero ter certeza de que a Afirmação não esconde você ou suas histórias à medida que avançamos”, escreveu Kitchen em seu convite. Se você tiver reações ou uma história para compartilhar sobre a reversão da política de exclusão, envie para [email protected]. Você também pode leia outras histórias e reações à reversão da política de exclusão.
I remember where I was the day my straight daughter told me about the policy of exclusion in November of 2015. I remember thinking it can’t really mean what it says. My church would Nunca exclude children for something their parents did. No church, especially the LDS church, whose focus is on the family, would cause families to be torn apart and family members to feel rejected and excluded. Then finding out it was true, I wondered how this would affect MY family. My daughter was married to her wife at the time and they both had already left the church, so this new policy would not affect them or their children. But over the next few months, and even years, I watched how it hurt my friends and their families. I watched friends suffer as they lost their children and as families were torn apart. I watched my friend’s heart break as her sweet wife took her life because she couldn’t take the guilt of not following church leaders. Would my God of Love and Inclusion really send this revelation? So many people felt in their hearts that that policy was wrong. The church doesn’t get to decide the way people feel about what is morally right, even within members of their congregation. My faith was shaken!
Now, several years later, the church suddenly reverses the policy and things are suppose to be forgiven and forgotten. When my gay daughter sent me the link with the announcement I was so happy and relieved it was finally not overshadowing our Mormon LGBT community and our church. I was thrilled the dark cloud was lifted, but then the reality of 3.5 years of suffering hit me; pain and even death that can Nunca be undone. Those lives will never fulfill their purpose. Those families will always have a hole in them. Those hearts will always hurt, and most relationships will never be the same. As all of that sank in, I began to wonder about the validity of the church, any church, that would hurt and exclude so many for how they were born while claiming doing so was not just policy but revelation from God. Then suddenly it’s no longer important? No longer God’s will? Was it really ever?
It is hard to reconcile a religion whose leader tells us the policy is a revelation from God and then just a short time later reverses the policy with no apologies or recognition of the pain it caused. Again my faith is shaken! I am beyond grateful that the church no longer will punish the LGB community to that degree. It is a step in the right direction, but we have so far to go!