A liderança da Igreja precisa agir para mudar as atitudes em relação aos membros queer
7 de abril de 2019
by Andy Winder
Submetido à Afirmação após a reversão de A Igreja de Jesus Cristo dos Santos dos Últimos Dias de suas mudanças de política de novembro de 2015 que proibiam filhos de pais LGBTQ de serem abençoados e batizados e caracterizavam membros da igreja que se casavam pelo mesmo sexo como apóstatas. Essas mudanças se tornaram conhecidas na comunidade LGBTQ Mórmon como a "política de exclusão", "política de exclusão" ou "PoX". No dia seguinte ao anúncio da reversão desta política, Nathan Kitchen, Presidente da Afirmação, convidou todos os que estivessem dispostos a compartilhar seus sentimentos autênticos e todas as suas histórias de pesar, raiva, alívio, tristeza, felicidade, confusão, o que quer que seja que esteja ao redor a rescisão desta política. “Como presidente da Afirmação, quero ter certeza de que a Afirmação não esconde você ou suas histórias à medida que avançamos”, escreveu Kitchen em seu convite. Se você tiver reações ou uma história para compartilhar sobre a reversão da política de exclusão, envie para [email protected]. Você também pode leia outras histórias e reações à reversão da política de exclusão.
When the Church announced the reversal of a policy that banned LGBTQ families from baptizing their children and declared gay relationships “apostate,” I was reminded of the example my college roommate Rachel set several days after the policy was announced in November 2015. After a church speaker started to complain about the upset over the new policy banning children of queer families from getting baptized, she walked out of the meeting even though so many heads turned in her direction.
As a closeted transgender freshman at Brigham Young University, I appreciated her bravery for doing something that I couldn’t. Later in the year, Rachel was the one who helped me discover my preferred, masculine name. She attended a therapy session with me to help her better understand what I was going through. Even though LGBTQ issues in the church didn’t affect her as a straight woman, she listened to those who were hurting and offered compassion.
What separates Rachel’s example from the recent church announcement, I think, is actions versus words. This announcement doesn’t erase all of the pain queer families have experienced at church. I’ve known many gay or transgender people who were banned from sacrament meeting for going to church as their authentic selves and more whose families cut off communication after they came out. And after the policy came out in 2015, I and many of my queer friends felt anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts because we felt like the Church had turned its back on us. It’s frustrating to me for that reason that, while this change is positive, it didn’t come with an apology or action for change.
Changing policies or offering a vision for “better understanding and less contentious communications” is important, but it doesn’t heal the trauma LGBTQ members have felt over the past three-and-a-half years. Attitudes toward queer Latter-Day Saints aren’t going to shift until Church leadership takes action to change them. If we really want to be a Christlike church, then nobody should feel like they don’t belong in sacrament or don’t have a place in Church doctrine. Changing a policy to welcome LGBTQ families at church is a good start, but I think we can all do better to open our minds and act with compassion towards each other.
Read more in an article Andy published on HuffPost Personal.