Não é o suficiente para mudar a política: Minha igreja precisa se arrepender

6 de abril de 2019

Luz Arco-Íris de Mão

by Nelson Negron

Submetido à Afirmação após a reversão de A Igreja de Jesus Cristo dos Santos dos Últimos Dias de suas mudanças de política de novembro de 2015 que proibiam filhos de pais LGBTQ de serem abençoados e batizados e caracterizavam membros da igreja que se casavam pelo mesmo sexo como apóstatas. Essas mudanças se tornaram conhecidas na comunidade LGBTQ Mórmon como a "política de exclusão", "política de exclusão" ou "PoX". No dia seguinte ao anúncio da reversão desta política, Nathan Kitchen, Presidente da Afirmação, convidou todos os que estivessem dispostos a compartilhar seus sentimentos autênticos e todas as suas histórias de pesar, raiva, alívio, tristeza, felicidade, confusão, o que quer que seja que esteja ao redor a rescisão desta política. “Como presidente da Afirmação, quero ter certeza de que a Afirmação não esconde você ou suas histórias à medida que avançamos”, escreveu Kitchen em seu convite. Se você tiver reações ou uma história para compartilhar sobre a reversão da política de exclusão, envie para [email protected]. Você também pode leia outras histórias e reações à reversão da política de exclusão.

For this post to make sense I need to do something I’ve delayed doing for too long. I’ve decided to finally do it not because I think it’s anybody’s business or because I need anyone’s approval, but rather because it’s time I join my people in the fight for our existence, our rights and equal treatment. Nothing special, just equality.

I am and always have been a part of the LGBTQ community. Yes, I was born this way. I too was bullied and mistreated as I was growing up. “Maricón”, “pato”, among others were the insults accompanied by inappropriate jokes I had to listen to and was forced to laugh at (so as not to blow my cover) my whole life. Feeling “less than” and tortured by the pain of having to keep a secret that was bigger than me was a heavy weight to carry since childhood. Getting my feelings hurt by friends and family members that didn’t know or understand the things they were saying, or who they were saying them to, was a regular problem.

I have always believed in God and loved and respected His teachings and influence in my life. At the age of 16, I joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, which made me a target for more bullying and isolation within my school, family and even some friends. However, what I had found in the gospel of Christ was larger and more important than anything I had ever experienced before. I had to share the good news with others, so at the age of 19, I accepted an invitation to go preach the gospel in California for two years.

My feelings and attraction towards the same sex never went away, no matter how hard I prayed, no matter how much faith I had. During my mission and after I was told by leaders that, if I married a woman, those feelings would go away. I did. After letting her know about my secret, we gave it a go, but after 12 years and two sons, we decided to end our marriage. The attraction never went away.

It has been very hard to keep my faith in an organization that led me to this major life failure, but not once or for one minute have I doubted the truthfulness of the true teachings of Christ or the love of God for me and for all. The imperfect people who run this, and any other organization, have caused imperfect decisions to be made and many people have been hurt.

I am glad that my church has reversed the policy put in place 3.5 years ago. A step in the right direction indeed. However, there’s more that needs to happen. One doesn’t get to just change something and walk away without apologizing for the damage, and fixing the problem, we caused.

Why do I think I get to ask such an organization to apologize to me?! Because it was my life that was altered because of the policy. My sons, in an attempt to support me, left the church and had their names removed from church records. My older son was getting ready to go on a mission and decided that he couldn’t preach a message from a church that would make him renounce his father’s source of love and happiness. It tore me apart.

Because it was me who wondered if I’d be better off dead. It was me who questioned my existence and felt unwanted, unloved and “less than” on a daily basis for a long time.

Because it was me who was under incredible and unhealthy amounts of stress and pressured to make decisions about my happiness in relation to my eternal salvation.

It was me who tried to process the message of the gospel as a message of hope and happiness that simply didn’t apply to me.

And because, to me, it’s personal.

Sim, este é um passo na direção certa, mas o processo de arrependimento que me ensinaram, ironicamente pela organização, incluiu um pedido de desculpas e corrigir os problemas causados na medida do possível.

Yes, I am gay and I have learned to love myself. More importantly, those whom I love value me, love me, and accept me just as I am.

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2 comentários

  1. Michael Haehnel em 06/04/2019 às 7:02 PM

    Exactly right. The Church needs to model the very doctrine it has taught over and over again. Elders Oaks in 2015 said that the Church does not make apologies, as if that was God’s mind, but it is not. God weeps for what was done in His name.

  2. Sean Brady em 07/04/2019 às 1:03 PM

    Great comments and I am sorry for you and your suffering and the many who suffer every day wondering if it’s worth going on. Know this, it is so worth going on because of what you can do through your strength and commitment to help others. We all need each other in one way or another. We all have struggles gay straight black white or who ever we are we all struggle and we all need each other to get through life’s amazing journey. Know that you are loved and we need you.

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