Mixed-Orientation Marriages

Dulin Family

Our Decision to Divorce and Remain a Family

August 23, 2020 |

We regret the messages in society and our communities that continue to tell LGBTQ people that what is inside of them or the relationships they form are no good. We continue to work for increased understanding that leads to change. Neither one of us regrets our family or the love we found within it. “To love another person is to see the face of God” and we have loved and seen each other deeply.

2018 Calendar

Affirmation’s Top 10 Posts of 2018

December 28, 2018 |

As we close out the year 2018, it’s a good time to reflect on all that’s happened over the year. This year’s top ten posts on the Affirmation website highlight many of the events and concerns affecting the Affirmation community this year, including the transition to a new Latter-day Saint First Presidency, a response to words out of general conference, a focus on suicide prevention, and more. Here are our top ten posts for 2018.

Kerry Spencer

Being in a Mixed-Orientation Marriage Is Not Something We Would Ever Have Chosen on Purpose

September 17, 2018 |

In our, very, very, Mormon world, being gay was just… never an option. It was so far outside the realm of something we’d even considered possible that, by the time we accepted it for what it was, we were married with children, our lives inextricably entangled.

Jena Peterson on Listen Learn & Love Podcast: Mormon, Gay, and in Mixed-Orientation Marriage

March 18, 2018 |

Jena discusses being Mormon, being gay, and the realities of being in a mixed-orientation marriage. She shares how conflicted LDS people are when they realize they are gay, as the truth of that equals the truth of the gospel, and how she is trying to balance those two truths.

Photo of a man and a woman holding hands with the sun setting in the background.

On the Ethics of Mixed-Orientation Marriages

February 17, 2018 |

Laura Skaggs Dulin discusses the ethical challenges of mixed-orientation marriages through her experience as a licensed marriage and family therapist and as a gay woman in a mixed-orientation marriage of her own, including how she grieved the loss of a relationship that would never happen.