Reversal of the November 2015 Policy on Gay Families
Three and a half years later, the degrading, painful, weaponized policy finally rescinds. There are many reasons to celebrate such a change, yet many of us are still hurting. Still, the institution has taken a step forward.
So what do I do with all of this? What do I do when a church leader says something that doesn’t feel right in my mind and in my heart and yet I feel that he’s been called of God? What do I do when I deeply fear being erased and then I’m embraced and loved? Those aren’t easy questions to answer.
I would love in my lifetime for the church of my family and my upbringing to be fully affirming. We’re not there yet, but let the trend be our friend today. Let’s be happy with the progress, the open-mindedness, and the enlightenment (in my opinion), that’s happened. We will see what the future brings.
I made a conscious decision many years ago to celebrate every positive step made by my church, and not to become lost and distracted by things I didn’t understand or agree with.
What is important to me today is the knowledge that God, my Eternal Father, loves me as I am. I am sure that he was not the one who instructed church leaders to exclude the children of same-sex couples.
The true cost of discipleship is showing grace to those who “revile” you. It is turning the other cheek when people throw the fireballs of hatred, ready to burn your emotional strength to cinders. The true cost is, showing compassion when people just don’t understand.
I am grateful for everything that has happened. Not because of some revelation, but because of the growth that I had to experience. My eyes were opened up to some truths and I saw my escape route. I have begun really finding myself, thinking freely, and separating dogma from my life.
Why do you keep me distant from you even as you speak of ministering with love?
We felt like the Church had turned its back on us. It’s frustrating to me for that reason that, while this change is positive, it didn’t come with an apology or action for change.